Thursday, June 15, 2017

Seeking Help as a Laestadian

In Norway, Sami victims of violence seek help less often than non-Sami. No surprise, as this also holds in native communities in North America.

But in addition to the disempowering effects of colonization, Laestadianism is mentioned as a cause in this article.
"Laestadianism's influence on Sami culture and society also plays a part in strengthening the attitude that it is the victim who must bear the shame and guilt for the violence, not the offender."
"The tabooing of sex and body, the silence concerning everything private, and the idea that issues are solved within the family. We find such ideas everywhere in Norway, but there are indications that these taboos are stronger within Laestadian and Sami communities." 
"The view on women in Sami communities is often colored by Laestadianism: women should remain silent in gatherings and sexuality is not discussed."
Sound familiar? What can be done?


Tuesday, June 06, 2017

Helena's Story

"What if you were told that reason and questioning can take your faith away? Contraception is a sin, homosexuality is a sin, wearing makeup is a sin, or even having a TV is a sin?"
In this Culture Chat with Mimi Chan podcast, Mimi talks to Helena (one of the bravest people I know, and a dear friend) about leaving Laestadianism, and healing from sexual, physical, emotional, and spiritual abuse.

A few quotes:
  
Control through fear:
"They have a belief that you can lose your faith in an instant. There is a solid amount of fear built in. I remember as a kid feeling scared, what would happen if I lost my faith and then I died, what would happen to me?"

On the need for integrity as the final straw:
"If you don't say anything, you're saying something. And if you do say something, you're going to have to go against your belief system unless your beliefs are in lockstep with theirs." 

On shunning:
"If you were in the church and you're gone, now you're not just a worldly person, you're an evil worker. You're treated with less respect than people who have never been part of the religion."

On nonreporting of sexual abuse:
"When our daughter was molested by someone in the church, the preachers told us not to go to the police. Here in Washington, clergy are not mandatory reporters, which I think is wrong . . . but it's illegal for them to tell you not to go to the police . . . that is obstruction of justice."

"You're not doing the perpetrators any favors by not holding them accountable!"

On emotional abuse:
"When you are teaching someone that they are solid sin, that they should carry all this shame and guilt, it is very core to who you are. If someone hits you . . . if you have a bruise, it's easy to say that person is a jerk, that's not okay, but when someone is talking about who you are on the inside, it's harder to detangle from."

On raising healthy children:
"I'm glad I left when my kids were young so they wouldn't have years of that whole guilt-and-shame system to slough off."

"They will require more from their relationships that I did mine."

To someone considering leaving:
"Explore! Read about other schools of thought, about other religions. Allow yourself to ask the questions that you have. If there is supposedly this amazing God that created the universe, he is not too small to ask these questions against . . . it's not gonna hurt his feelings! There's no reason why you can't ask all the questions you have and get answers, and if you aren't getting the answers there, there's always the internet."

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Thursday, April 20, 2017

Child Rapist Sentenced to Life

While not mentioned in the article, this serial rapist was raised in the Laestadian faith, whose doctrine of forgiveness has been discussed many times before on this site and many others.

I hesitated to write this, knowing the victim and his family must be eager to move on, but readers of this blog will know why silence only serves abusers. I salute this boy and his family for pressing charges and protecting other children. I hope they inspire others to do the same.

Sex offender sentenced to life in prison

Man convicted for two counts of child molestation


By Emily Gillespie, Columbian Breaking News Reporter

Published: April 14, 2017, 9:05 PM

While sentencing a Spokane man to spend life in prison without parole for raping a 9-year-old boy, Judge Scott Collier said he was waiting to hear one thing from the defendant. But he didn’t hear it.

“I hear nothing of remorse on your part,” he said.

Remorse wouldn’t have mattered, however.

Carsie J. Tikka, 38, already had one class A sex offense on his criminal history and because of the Persistent Offender Accountability Act, Tikka’s recent conviction comes with a mandatory life prison sentence.

The case began Jan. 6 when Vancouver police were called to Legacy Salmon Creek Medical Center to pick up a sexual assault kit. Officers were notified that the victim had told medical staff he had been raped three times by Tikka between Jan. 1 and Jan. 5, while visiting a residence in northwest Vancouver, according to a probable cause affidavit in the case.

Tikka was reportedly a friend of the victim’s family.

In an interview, the boy said the first time something happened between him and Tikka was when he was 8 years old and that Tikka had molested him on more than one occasion, the affidavit said.

The case went to trial in February in Clark County Superior Court, and Tikka was convicted of two counts of first-degree child rape and two counts of first-degree child molestation, all with aggravating circumstances for abuse of trust. Aggravators allow a judge to sentence outside the standard sentencing range.

Tikka’s criminal history includes attempted first-degree child molestation, communication with a minor for immoral purposes and attempted voyeurism, Deputy Prosecuting Attorney Kristine Foerster said.

She called Tikka an “egregious danger to society.”

“The defendant is exactly the type of person the persistent offender act was created for,” Foerster said.

When given his chance to address the court, Tikka read a list of issues he had with a presentencing investigation report, at many points claiming that the person writing the report had lied.

He also read excerpts from the Bible, saying that his sins have been washed away, before offering forgiveness to nearly everyone in the courtroom for lies and vindictiveness, including the judge.

“I pray that you retire and give up your robe to someone more deserving of your title,” Tikka said to Collier.

Once Tikka was done, Collier addressed him.

“I think these comments are reflective of why the legislature has done what it has done,” Collier said, in respect to the persistent offender act. “You clearly by your statement here are not remorseful. You put the blame on everyone else and take no responsibility.”

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Saturday, April 08, 2017

Swinging Laestadians

I enjoyed this recent post by Mauri Kinnunen about a 1937 article in the Chicago Daily Tribune, in which joiking is compared to swing music, and cocktails prove disappointing to some Laestadians. It may be a stretch to compare joik to swing, but both are characterized by energy and improvisation.

Go read the article, then come back and enjoy these clips.

Instrumental "cocktail swing" recorded in Sweden in the same year as the article, 1937:


Marie Boine inhabits this spine-tingling "Goaskinviellja / Eagle Brother" at the Oslo Opera House in 2009:



Monday, March 13, 2017

The Right to Dance

A reader writes:
My cousin's wife shared this link. She is a folkdancer. This is a parish in Helsinki who took part of this campaign and they challenged every parish in Finland. This is an example of how dancing belongs to everyone, everyone can dance in some way regardless of physical abilities, and everyone has the right to dance. You can see the priests, some of them female, are dancing in this video!



Do you dance?